Tuesday, July 03, 2007
if you are attached, is it still alright to go out alone with someone (not your gf/bf) of the opposite sex?is it insulting to the guy to insist on paying?looks first, or character first, usually?today went cycling... well okay actually didn't go cycling. after slots, met lucinda and walked with her to the laguna food centre (bloody far from vj) to have dinner with mel (and ben and louis and tim and claire and kat and eug and vic and felicia and vic's fam, minus josh). after that tim sent claire and kat and i home. haha it's nice going out with guys who will send you home. XD
hm. a lot of food for thought.
i know guys who are gentlemanly enough to do the nice little things for you even when you're not their girlfriend (sms to check if you're home, walk/ send you back/ wait with you, etc). and i always found it so nice of them, especially since they're not obligated to do anything, because they're just being gentlemanly and nice in general. like being a gentleman is just part of their nature. and i know guys who are really nice to the girls they like (girls in general too, but especially the girls they like) to go all over the place to get stuff for them, travel just to meet them, spend a lot of time/money on them, etc.
it never occurred to me these things often change when you get attached, that once they get what they want they will just take it for granted or not bother as much, etc. timothy pointed out that when guys are trying to get what they want, they can be the nicest creatures on earth. and once they get it, they can just be among the worst.
honestly, i haven't seen that side of them yet. which, all things taken into account, is a good thing. i've seen the not-so-nice guys, but not the double-faced ones. well, some double faced. but not in that way. it's interesting to think about. how dangerous it is to think you know someone, and just to put your trust in them...
also, it's interesting how differently girls and guys see things. I KNOW, it's cliche, but really! every time i think i get it something comes up again and i realise i don't understand at all. guys are first attracted because of looks, then personality. girls it's first personality, then looks are like a bonus. SO cliched, but cliches are rooted in truth. also like how guys like to do big things, like pay for stuff or buy big things, etc, but to the girls it's the little things that matter, like calling to check if you're alright, doing small things for you like holding open doors, sending you back, making time for you.
speaking of which. lucinda was like opening the car door for ben. then she realised, "eh, i'm the girl. you're suppsoed to be opening the door for me!" and guess what she did THAT'S RIGHT hahaha that girl slammed the door shut again *bsh* hahahhahaha !! oman. it was like super funny la. ben was like "errr..." hahahahaha LOL lucinda lam you rock la!
another thought. my father put it very nicely when he said "you are more connected to the outside world than to your home when you're at home." the reverse is true to a certain extent: i'm more connected to home when i'm out than when i'm at home. the whole idea of technology and interconnectivity. truly, you
can be in two places at one time now. like the samsung advertisement. haha. and yet, you can only ever be in one place, too.
oh well. just a thought.
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*profound thought XD* --------
i'll never be old enough until i'm too old......*random thought ;)* ------- i wonder what you're doing now? =)
Posted by nayrakroarual at 12:33 AM
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